December 6, 2023

Navigating the Holidays While Grieving

By Barbara Desmond, MSW, Bereavement Coordinator

Holidays, anniversaries, birthdays and even the changing of the seasons can be especially challenging when experiencing the loss of a loved one. Holidays are often steeped in traditions, celebrations, and social gatherings and bereaved often feel a sense of dread and wonder if they have the energy. Self-care measures like being gentle with one’s self, such as getting proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise are essential when grieving, but as we enter the holiday season and winter, we invite those who are grieving to consider expectations and their own unique needs.

For some, this will mean continuing with a tradition that brings them comfort...perhaps making a favorite recipe or decoration for their home. For others, embracing a new tradition may feel like a better choice (a trip, a movie marathon, or some time alone in a special place). Many bereaved find a way to honor their loved one by donating to a favorite charity, or volunteering their time to a cause near and dear to the deceased’s heart. A simple lighting of a candle or another ritual of choice, acknowledging the gifts the loved one brought to the lives of others can be meaningful way.

Making intentional decisions about how one will spend their time and with whom in advance can be helpful. Communicating with family and friends will hopefully reduce anticipatory anxiety and bring a sense of peace. Allow yourself the flexibility to change your mind and ‘shift gears’ as you see fit. As you enter the season ahead, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve…. only your way. Be good to yourself.

Our program Navigating the Holidays While Grieving is being held on Monday, December 18 from 5 to 6:30 p.m. at Wesley United Methodist Church, 79 Clinton Street in Concord. To register, call (603) 224-4093, ext. 82828 to speak with a member of our Bereavement team.