Holidays, anniversaries, birthdays and the change of the seasons can be especially challenging when you are grieving the loss of a loved one. Holidays are often steeped in traditions, celebrations, and social gatherings and people who are grieving may feel a sense of dread as they anticipate this time of year and the absence of their special person(s).

Grieving is emotionally exhausting and those who are grieving may feel too overwhelmed to meet the demands and expectations of the season, from navigating family and social gatherings to sending – and even receiving – greetings and gifts.

Self-care is essential for those who are grieving – as simple as it seems, making sure to get enough sleep, proper nutrition, and exercise can help you as you grieve.

As we enter the holiday and winter seasons, we encourage those who are grieving to consider expectations and their own unique needs at this time.

For some, this will mean continuing with a tradition that, while bittersweet, brings them comfort…perhaps making their loved one’s favorite recipe, decorating their home, or gathering with family and friends. For others, embracing a new tradition may feel like a better choice…time away or a movie marathon, for instance.

Many people who are grieving find ways to honor their loved ones by donating to a favorite charity or volunteering their time to a cause that was meaningful to their loved one. Simply lighting a candle or placing favorite flowers on the holiday table can be a beautiful way to honor a loved one as well.

Making intentional decisions about how to spend your time and with whom and communicating to these decisions to family and friends in advance will help reduce anticipatory anxiety and alleviate holiday stress. Allow yourself to change your mind and ‘shift gears’ as needed along the way.

As we enter the season ahead, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve…. just your way. Take time to reflect on what you need most and be good to yourself.

Join us for “Navigating the Holidays While Grieving” at Wesley United Methodist Church, 79 Clinton Street in Concord on Wednesday, December 10, 1-3 p.m. Registration is required

Together we will explore how to acknowledge our own needs during a time that is often filled with expectations of others.